Question for girls

[davywavy]

Why is it, when a girl discovers that her man has been two-timing her, that she is far more likely to attack the other woman than to dump/attack/lay in to the bloke - who is patently the more guilty party having lied to her and cheated on her?

This makes no sense to me.

Comments

[sue-b.livejournal.com]

Because subconsiously we accept that a man is weak and therefore it must have been the other woman who is to blame...

But if we discover later than the man was at fault,he will be ridiculed, laughed at, have the entire world told how he has a small penis and is incredible bad in bed.

Ever heard the phrase, " Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned."

Do you ever do any work Pt2

[(Anonymous)]

OK,

its because they are trying to subconciously tempt the bloke back into the fold by playing on the catfight fantasies.

Or that may just be me......


Oppppps


You still OK for the weekend?

Pip Pip

Monty
Hiding from female friends

[chrisvenus]

You say that as if it doesn't work the other way around. Bloke discovers girlfriend two timing. Does he blame girlfriend or other bloke?

As for why? Well, I could tell you but I've a feeling it was rhetorical as much as anything else. SHout if you *do* want a sensible answer. :)

well..

[fire-kitten.livejournal.com]

in most of the cases (for both genders) I think people have want to believe that their other half was 'led astray and manipulated' rather than that they conciously decided to lie, cheat and totally disregard their partner's feelings.

Much in the same vein if a youngish girl looses her virginity it is often blamed on the 'nasty' boy, rther than the fact she decided to go and do it. Not sure if that works the other way round for boys though.

[blue-cat.livejournal.com]

Because she still has 'feelings' for him, and might actually want to keep him - but wants her way out of the picture!

Besides - if it was his fault then surely you should have known him better, kept a better eye on him, been a better girl for him or had better sense than trust that low level, lying, snakebelly worm!

[mamahooch.livejournal.com]

Angry feminist answer, or intellectual vigilante answer? Hell, I'll give you both.

Angry feminist: it's because women are trained to hate ourselves, and by extension other women. Therefore, when anything goes wrong between a man and a woman, our instant gut reaction is that it must be the fault of a woman (either the woman or the dreaded Other Woman). Under no circumstances is she to blame the man when other options are available.

Intellectual vigilante: because some people, women included, are stupid. They are to be swatted upside the head until Enlightened. Or, you know, dead.

[kikayume.livejournal.com]

Two reasons, both already mentioned:

1.) You may still love him/be in disbelief that it could possibly be his fault.

2.) If he's cheating on you, then something, by inference is wrong with you, because if you were ok, he obviously wouldn't be cheating on you, now would he?

A different instinct is activated...

[applez.livejournal.com]

Territoriality. The personal weakness of the guy is secondary to the 'how dare that bitch take my man' attitude.

Once that challenge is sorted, then the guy is the next target - for wroth or mercy, who knows. Cast the die.

Any particular reason why you're asking this? Where's puddingcat?

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Re: A different instinct is activated...

[davywavy.livejournal.com]

Doubtless smacking some plump gothette upside the head.

Re: A different instinct is activated...

[applez.livejournal.com]

Ah ... well, we won't talk about some libidinous males then. ;-)

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[nevecat.livejournal.com]

'Playground'/pack-instinct rules.

It's one of those unspoken things - it's fine for two girls to both be interested in one guy from afar (they'll probably push notes across the desk about him, giggle, and be generally insufferable), but if one gets lucky, the other should be a good sport, back off, and stop being interested - and *definitely* not make a move.

You don't stomp on someone else's territory, it's just Not Done, and anyone who breaks such a simple rule is setting themselves up for hair-pulling, being clawed with vertically-filed nails, slapped, etc in the short-term, and cold-shouldered/bitched about long-term.